Friends w/o Benefits
One of the more recent catch phrases that our society has overused is that of “Friends With Benefits.” Most of us know that it describes the relationship between two people who are friends, in which there are special benefits enjoyed in that union. That is where it often gets complicated.
In a world where we are bombarded by sexually suggestive images and phrases, how can we ever believe that it is possible to have an opposite-sex friendship that shares no benefits? Or is it inevitable that that “line” is going to be crossed at some point and time? I thought a benefit is supposed to be a good thing.
I choose to believe that men and women can be friends…in the true sense of the word. Friends with no hidden agendas. Friends who truly seek the best for one another…even if it means nothing else will ever transpire between them. Friends who will celebrate with you in times of conquest. And who will mourn with you in times of sorrow. This is the true meaning of friendship.
Giving without expectation is truly a higher-consciousness opportunity.
Try it…you’ll like it. There is a benefit to this…I promise.
Peace.
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Mark,
Thank you for this commentary. It was much needed! I do so agree with you.
I have a friend of the opposite gender with whom I talked and partied more than 20 years ago. Since then, we both moved the the same town outside of the Bay Area. Last year, we ran into one another at a Wal-mart store. We were so glad to reunite, and pick up where we left off — talking, sharing 20 years of life updates, comforting each other during illness, being companions to attend events, and simply being friends W/O the referenced type of benefits.
Take care, Toni
Mark,
I have always been able to have friendships with men. I have 2 very close men friends now. One is single, one is married. The married friend (work buddy) has a wonderful wife. She told me that her marriage is much better since I have been best friends with her husband. She stated that since he and I are confidants, her husband
listens to my suggestions and deals with her in a much better manner.
I feel blesssed that she is so understanding of my friendship with her husband. I won tickets to a Raiders game, and took my best friend from work. His wife had no problem with him hanging out with me at the game. Respecting marriage, and boundries can add so much to your life.