What an amazing time I have enjoyed the past few days, as I celebrated the 60th anniversary of my birth. To spend the afternoon with my immediate family and extended family/friends, many of whom I have had as part of my life for over 50 years was special in a way that I have not words to describe.
The well-wishes sent to me via the multiple social media outlets to which I subscribe have been overwhelming. It has again reminded me of the power that social media can play in our lives. It is my intention to publicly and privately thank each person who took time to salute me on this birthday occasion.
In reflecting upon the journey to arrive at 60 years, I sought to blog daily from T-minus 60 days…up to the actual date, January 19th. I got sidetracked a few days, and even went weeks without posting my thoughts. However, when I did take the time to write, it gave me a sense, as it should do for us all, that what is inside of us is important. Not just to us, but to those who are watching our lives unfold.
Our stories of overcoming as we trek through this life journey are but stepping stones for our children, grandchildren, and unseen others, who want to find their way without getting too wet and dirty…because, as we can now attest, life is not always pretty nor perfect.
I commit now, and for as long as The Creator allows me to be here in my physical body, to share my thoughts, feelings and even my foibles, so that my heirs will know that it can truly be a journey of love and laughter. If it is in His will, the next 30 years are going to be such a wonderful experience and, I pray, makes each of you proud to have shared this time with me.
Now, let’s get moving…there is much to be done.
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They Don’t See…
One of my favorite songs by my All Time Favorite music group, Earth Wind & Fire, is entitled “They Don’t See.” It is a song that seeks to share the message that through the troubles and triumphs of life, the disappointments and despair, our faith in God is what sustains us.
Now that the next decade of my life is upon me…I ponder what has really changed in the past 40 years?
“Saw a man the other day, said he was giving up his faith, going to turn his back on God, make his way twice as hard.
We both said were fools, but can I really be? To say it for real he was, quite in misery.”
I struggle, more lately than ever it seems, to not become another older, cynical man who laments over the “good old days”, all the while crying the tears of a clown as I see a lack of humanity in the world today. How can we as a nation continue to act like the moral authority in the world, yet have more citizens imprisoned than any other “civilized” nation? With such a wide disparity in wealth distribution? So many children still living in poverty…
What are we to do as we seek to make a difference in the lives of our children? In our local communities? Nationally? When our politicians and corporate moguls play monopoly with our economy? I ask these questions in hope of getting a dialogue started that will not just create pretty proclamations, but will tear down and rebuild the structures that continue to separate each of us from the beauty and possibilities that exist when we better understand our need for unified progress.
“Well, I read my news. Ain’t nothing changed, ain’t nothing improved.
Pain comes down like the falling rain,
But your soul don’t feel the same.”
“When you love, love is all you are.”
Love is the answer…I hope that WE can see.
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Reeling in The Years…
I had a funny experience recently, where I overheard a conversation between a couple of 20-Something’s. They were lamenting about how much closer to 30 that they are. One, an obviously bright, funny and beautiful woman, said she recently spotted a gray hair while looking in the mirror. Oh my….
It caused me to smile and recall how I felt when, now more than 30 years ago, I saw my hairline begin to work itself away from the front of my head. As my Dad had been a prematurely bald man, I am told as early as 27, here I was thinking that would also be my fate.
Today, I have a silver crown upon my head where a once full head of Black hair had resided. And, on the precipice of my 60th birthday celebrations, I know that gray hair, crows feet and a few digits less than 6 pack abs are just fine with me. Yet, what does await me going forward?
The wisdom that I have gained during the past 30 plus years, not all of it from choices made wisely, is invaluable. The adage, “If I knew then what I know now,” rings true each day that I now journey forward. Nothing can prepare us for tomorrow other than the experiences that we walk through today. There really are no shortcuts.
So many friends have not made it to this time in my life…while others have health challenges that restrict them from living fuller lives. And here am I. Never spent a day/night in a hospital since I was released to my Mother 60 years ago. Never had surgery. Never had a major illness. All of my children are healthy and living well. There is nothing about my life that I can complain about.
A couple of lines from a song by Steely Dan, Reelin’ in The Years, is my foundation for today’s post.: “The things that pass for knowledge I can’t understand…”, “The things you think are useless, I can’t understand.” Click here for the song:
Going forward, I will seek to understand more…about myself, about my children/family, and life itself. Having an 11 year old daughter will certainly keep me poised and current; even when I won’t want to be.
EnJoy with me this day. It’s all that we have because the years keep on moving forward. And we can’t reel that back in, no matter how hard we try.
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Wake Up Everybody!
In this age of technology that allows us to know within minutes of events that occur half-way around the world, it is still a mystery that we have not made more progress with a number of local issues that plague our communities. Sure, we all have heard about the police shootings of unarmed Black men, the unjust incarcerations of innocent men and women of color, and the mis-education of our youth, who are spoon fed carefully-selected tidbits of information.
To what end is this allowed to continue in a society that has so much to gain by being a Global leader in justice and equality? In a country that seeks to monitor the human rights infractions of other sovereign nations? Where I grew up, it is said that if my kitchen needs cleaning, I better not have too much to say about the grease stains on your stove.
Imagine if our school systems taught financial literacy. Entrepreneurial classes. Educate our youth on how the judicial system is set up and how to play a part in it. Might we then have a better-prepared work/business force that can lead us into the next 30-50 years of growth as a nation? As a World?
One of my all-time favorite social justice songs is from Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes, “Wake Up Everybody.” The words are still relevant 40 years after they were first penned. Take a listen and then let’s make a commitment to do more for our children…so that their futures, and ours, are brighter.
Wake Up Everybody: http://youtu.be/-TDfPgd3Kyc
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I Never Can Say Goodbye.
Sitting on the precipice of a new year, 2015, I reminisce about what 2014 has been for me.
• Meeting new people whom I now call friends
• Saying goodbye to friends who have returned to Spirit
• Making peace with people from whom I have been estranged
• Honoring my Mother in each opportunity to share her story of Love for her family…
• Helping Meisha to navigate her space in the middle school environment
• Being a peacemaker for my Granddaughter and her Grandmother
Alas, as we embark upon a new year, we all look back and wonder. What else could I have accomplished? What should I have done better? Differently? Not said?
It is my sincere hope and belief that 2015 will afford us all new opportunities to be better human beings. I pray that we will learn more about how similar we are, desiring the good things for our children, wanting a safe, happy community in which we can live, versus focusing on the few areas in which we are different. How boring would it be if we all looked, thought and acted like everyone else? Ugggh.
And so I must say goodbye today…to 2014. It has been a grand experience.
Hello 2015. I am ready to live in all the fullness that the Creator has for me. You, too!
EnJoy this piece of iconic music from Mr. Isaac Hayes: http://youtu.be/zKKVIEZPTYk
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No Time for The Pain.
Funny how songs can not only bring back memories of times gone by, but also have the ability to cause us to think about the areas in life that today really mean something. On this Saturday morning, sipping a cup of coffee and reading, while listening to an Internet station playing some oldies music, this song was played. It was refreshing, yet, stirred no historical imagery of my life back in 1974, when it was released.
What it did for me today was to hear its lyrics with a new understanding.
Check out this stanza:
“Suffering was the only thing made me feel I was alive,
Thought that’s just how much it cost to survive in this world,
‘Til you showed me how, how to fill my heart with love,
How to open up and drink in all of that white light
Pouring down from the Heavens…”
As I prepare to step into my next decade of living, I am so thankful to those who have shown me love, even in the midst of my not-so-good choices the past 30 years. The true friends who loved me unconditionally and waited for me to release the pain that seemingly directed my thoughts, words and choices. I am so blessed now to be able to see, feel and TRUST the LOVE that is real and genuine.
And, at this wonderful intersection of my life-journey, I haven’t got time for the pain.
EnJoy this great song from Carly Simon here: http://youtu.be/E3_l5Ss203I?list=RDE3_l5Ss203I
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We are so Beautiful…
As the media wire carried the news of the death of singer Joe Cocker, it caused me to consider how swiftly the years pass by….and how young it feels to be approaching 60 years.
He, Joe Cocker, was “just” 70 years of age.
There was a time when we thought of those numbers, 60 and 70, as “old.” Now, the closer I get to them, the more I realize that the learning opportunities of living are so many. And, the time in which to grasp them seems so miniscule.
In reflecting upon Mr. Cocker and his life, I have a deeper appreciation for what he did…he never wavered from his own “brand” of singing. It was raw, honest, not polished and “made for TV…” He wore clothing that embodied his “everyman” attitude toward his art. Gotta love that he never “sold out for Hollywood.”
That is how I seek to be remembered when my day of transition arrives…and my family and friends are left to consider who I was here on Earth. I did not sell out to the “fad of the month…” I walked and talked the truth. I loved everyone and found the best in each person whom I encountered. In my head I told myself, and where it was prudent to tell others, that you are so beautiful…even if they did not believe it about themselves.
In honor of Mr. Joe Cocker, take a listen to his most famous song, “You Are So Beautiful.”
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For many Americans, especially those over the grand age of 60 years, many of who are on a fixed income, there are some really difficult choices that must be made each month. Not that I know about this personally, yet, but I have heard such a thing from a friend of a friend…
Whether to pay the utility bill and buy food, or buy food and get prescriptions filled. Should new tires be purchased or let the car sit parked in the driveway and catch public transportation.
At a time when people of the 60 years club should be able to relax and enjoy the spoils of their working years…many have very little to show for the many years of their lives that they gave to an employer/business/vocation. With the life expectancy expanding now well into another decade or two, how can one do anything but subsist in an environment that only sees the young as valuable?
Many of us have had some major life changes since the Great Recession of 2008, and are still not quite back to where we were before the economic floor gave way beneath us. Who has the energy to get back into the job force and rebuild again? Social security payments will not even house and feed a healthy, single person, let alone someone whom might have some varied health challenges.
The closer I get to this new 60 year threshold, the more I see it as one that came all too quickly. And I had made some plans…yet; I still could not walk away from my businesses and live comfortably. Nope. I will be in the marketplace for at least another 8 years…until my daughter is well into her college program.
America would do well to create a platform for her wizened-by-life Baby-Boomers who don’t have that bulging nest-egg that is advertised on too many late-night cable programs. We still have a long time left and many lessons to share before we are done. In the mean time, I will keep my lights on and my cupboards filled.
Here’s an article that might provide some insight: read more
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The Fool on The Hill…
In listening to a local jazz radio station today, I hear them announce that Sergio Mendes, a noted Brazilian musician and songwriter, was coming to the Bay Area in January. I was glad to hear that he was still alive and working…and am considering purchasing tickets to see him play in person. I was reflecting upon his song, The Fool On The Hill, even as the radio personality shared a number of his hits, but nothing touched me as much as the one that I remembered as a child.
It has such an easy melody, and simple lyrics. So refreshingly different from the computerized and mechanical sound being created today. It caused me to feel nostalgic. Reflecting upon a time, when life seemed so much simpler.
This weekend in the United States has seen the largest protests since the civil rights era of the early 1960’s and the Vietnam protests of the late 1960’s. The lack of indictments of police officers who have killed innocent, and unarmed Black men is at a crisis level.
The civil-rights protests of my childhood were successful because people from all ages and ethnic groups banded together to force the US government to recognize the humanity of its African-American citizens.
And the anti-war protests, seen as unpatriotic by many, were fueled by young, White and, often privileged, youth who had no desire to follow in their father’s footsteps of serving in a military that had been exposed as less-than-honest in it’s justification of America’s presence in SouthEast Asia.
So, I sit and listen to the song now, approaching a life milestone of 60 Years, and I wonder will I see the next level of change take place in America? Before I die? Or will I be like the subject of that song by Sergio Mendes, and know that this world of ours will keep spinning round…even as we make the changes to treat each man and woman with the dignity inherent by their Godly birthright. Will I be seen and not heard?
I will continue to climb up the mountain…so as to get a better view of this life. I pray that the view only gets better from higher ground and hope that someone is listening to the voices of those of us who have weathered a life storm or two to get to this place…
EnJoy the song: The Fool on The Hill
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“Embrace the Faith…”
In the approach to my 60th birthday I am thinking of how many things have changed since I was a child. Funny, how this is now something I am cognizant of, recalling a few conversations with some of the elders who have been a part of my life journey, who also shared with me how things had been different in their early years.
Consider this short list of things that we all now take for granted:
Current: …… Before:
Cell phones …… Pay phones on the corner
Voice message service …… Answering machine
Text messaging …… Having a real phone conversation
Power windows in automobile …… Manual crank windows
Automatic transmission in car …… Manual transmission with clutch
Digital/memory card cameras …… Film loaded cameras
Automatic dishwasher at home …… Washing dishes by hand
Most stores open on Holidays …… All stores closed on Holidays
With change comes growth, or so I hope. In observing this past Thanksgiving, and seeing how many people actually had to work in retail jobs, I am mindful that much of the change that takes place is economically driven. Business owners seeking to make more money…and consumers thinking they are benefitting from the “deals” offered on these new “Black Friday and Cyber Monday” offerings. Really? Maybe that is why the words, In God We Trust, are printed on the paper currency we use in America.
What will this world look like when I approach the next decade of 70 years? What will it be like when my daughter, Meisha, now 11, reaches 40? I pray that I can impart enough of my values to her, that have nothing to do with money, and thus keep alive those things that are timeless: self-love, respect, honesty, love for God and family, faith.
Here’s a video clip I hope you EnJoy: “Change”
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