What You Think is What You Get…

What You Think is What You Get…

One of my favorite songs from the ‘70’s group, The Dramatics, is titled Whatcha See is Whatcha Get. My understanding of that message is that there is no phoniness or deceit involved when dealing with this person…only the truth. What you see, is what you get.

I have, over the past 18 months, had the good fortune to align myself with a solid Network Marketing company by the name Legal Shield. And because I have made the decision to build a residual income using their business model, I am required to share the information with family, friends and people whom I meet.

Some of those people have been open to the information, others have been reluctant, but at least afforded me the chance to give them something to read, listen to or watch. It is the remaining group of people that has me concerned…the people who are living paycheck-to-paycheck, or are working 2 full time jobs, or worse, are not working at all, and have yet thwarted my efforts to share this information with them. They are still stuck in their own Matrix.

I am of the mindset, evermore now as I continue to expand my personal philosophy, that we can have, do and become so much more. Yet, we are all too comfortable remaining in our state-of-stuck, because it is the way we have learned to live.

On this past Friday and Saturday I attended a training course with Legal Shield, and the homework assignment for Saturday class was to memorize, or improvise, an opening script to use when approaching business owners. Much of Friday evening I kept busy doing all manner of things at home, not taking any real time to attempt a memorization of the material. Now, why would I do that? Especially since the instructor told the class that there would be two winners selected from among us on Saturday.

Somehow, I had allowed the “old tapes” in my head to resurface…the tapes that said that it was not that important to win…that I could just be average…that it did not matter. It was not until the early morning hours of Saturday, while in quiet meditation, did it occur to me that I was falling victim to what Dorothea Brand spoke of in her book, Wake Up and Live, as the Will to Fail.

I was giving myself all the excuses necessary to guarantee a substandard outcome, because I had not prepared, was too busy, whatever. This was the chicken door approach to my pending presentation. But, alas, today was more than just another day. For today, July 20, was the 16th year anniversary of my mother returning to spirit.

So, I made a decision in that moment to honor her life…on the date of her death, to be the best and give the best of myself. Even if it was just for a presentation before a group of my peers. This was going to be a new moment and memory for Mark.

And so I borrowed the most famous line from the aforementioned book, Wake Up and Live, which states that we should all Act as if it were Impossible to Fail. I decided to make the speech mine…using the framework of information that needed to be shared, but I would infuse it with my own flavor and spin. It was in that moment that I chose to win the Best Presenter award.

In the class that morning, my fellow attendees made solid presentations, and a few were even able to memorize all of the material. Yet, I knew that I was prepared to let the best Mark Lampkin shine forth. When it was my turn, I took a deep breath and rose to the occasion. I could feel the glow of my mother’s spirit strengthen me as I spoke. Her words of encouragement were a constant source of energy while she was with me on Earth…and now, she was smiling from the great beyond.

As the instructor prepared to announce the winners, I felt a calm and peace that has been absent from me for far too many years. The winner for the person who memorized the material the best was announced…and now it was time to announce the winner of the overall Best Presentation. Somehow, deep inside of me, I knew that I had done my best to prepare…had given myself permission to be me…and that whatever the outcome, I could feel good about what I had offered.

“And the winner of the Best Presentation is…Mark Lampkin.”

As I accepted the certificate from the instructor, and the applause and congratulations from my classmates, I knew that somewhere, Marilyn Jean Lampkin was smiling. For her son, the one who has hidden so much of himself from the world for far too many years, was now ready to rise above mediocrity. Was ready to shine bright once again. For now I had truly exorcised one of my demons…that of being willing to Fail.

I tell you all of this as my personal testimony of being liberated from my own self-imposed prison. Now, I am a free man. One who will never accept giving anything less than my very best at any and all endeavors to which I commit. I only hope that I can inspire those with whom I interact to do the same. For it will take many of us doing just that to lift up our families, communities and our nation. We can release the expectation that our best is never good enough..and thus, never give it. I am here as a witness, that our best is ALWAYS good enough.

For it is certain, that the thought that you dwell upon and nurture, is the thought that will manifest in your life. Let there be truth in your saying, “What you think , is what you get.”


Fear Factor…

One of the zaniest shows on television in the last 20 years has to be Fear Factor. This program centered on contestants who were required to complete an array of activities which could include eating Buffalo testicles, allowing tarantula spiders to crawl on your face, and being submerged in a bathtub full of water filled with leeches.

Now, as brave as I consider myself, it is doubtful that I would have completed many of those stunts…..even for a Fifty Thousand dollar winning prize. Nope. Not me.

In considering what it is that causes many of us to remain at our present levels in our business life, personal life and other areas of our lives…it always comes down to the belief in FEAR;


I am facing my own misdirected beliefs, as I prepare to close out the month in my Legal Shield business. The desire to earn more money is directly tied to the belief in either success or failure that dominates my philosophy. One of my online mentors is Eric Worre of Network Marketing Pro. In this segment he discusses the element of Fear that we all must face…and overcome.

Take a look at this short video to hear Eric’s perspective… http://networkmarketingpro.com/2013/01/21/what-keeps-people-from-success-in-network-marketing-nmpro-800/

Then consider giving yourself permission to kick fear in the face…


Who Plans to Fail?

I am currently on my second reading of a book entitled, “Wake Up and Live” authored by Dorethea Brand. I came to know of it when listening to the audio book version of “The Greatest Secret in The World” by Earl Nightingale.

In the book Ms. Brand shares her perspectives on how we all have the propensity to allow things in our lives to distract us from accomplishing the success that we all say we want. And, how good we have become in convincing ourselves, and others, of the merit of those obstacles.

Yet, how many of us are willing to confess to being guilty of such time wasters like watching 3 hours of television each evening, buying a gym membership and going once a month, or starting a home-based business and then never engaging in the activities that are required for your success.

The years I spent working in hospice care services taught me many things. One of the more important lessons was a simple one; no one at the end of their life asks to have more money, more cars or more hours on their job. The majority of people truly desire to have said yes to their passion, their childhood dreams that were deferred, to have spent more quality time with loved ones.

So today, I ask that you take inventory of how you spend your time. How much do you allow the influence of others to gently nudge you off course? Take an inventory tonight and see how much of what you do is really leading you toward the goals that you set this past January. You might be surprised at the results…

When we truly Wake Up and Live, we can then take full responsibility for all aspects of our lives. And then, without apology, live the truest expression of what we are called to be here and now.


Starting All Over Again…

This is the title of a 1970’s song from Mel and Tim…the only hit they ever recorded. It is about a love lost and starting again. My post today is about rebuilding our lives after a different type of dissolution…

As a mid-life man who has survived the worst economic collapse since the Great Depression, I am encountering more and more people of my age group facing similar rebuilding challenges. At this age, we have to consider going back into a job market that prefers younger, less-experienced, and less costly employees.

Too many of us have little to no retirement in place as we face this next chapter of our lives. We have worked for almost 40 years, some for one employer, others of us have worked for numerous, and now have to face a future that is not prepared for us.

I made a decision in 2011 to begin another home-based business sharing the services provided through Legal Shield. The ability to talk with an attorney without incurring the high hourly cost made sense to me. I also had need of preparing my estate planning documents, in order to negate a probate court battle for my heirs upon my death, and that is available for free with the Legal Shield membership.

What it also is allowing me to do is create a passive income stream from the efforts of team members who are using this as their vehicle to rebuild their lives. Like a smart insurance or real estate broker, I can create a team of business partners and earn overrides on their business success. They earn solid commissions and everyone wins.

I came across this article and want to share it with you…especially how it is such a challenge to face having to accept a wage that is 40-50% less than one is accustomed to making on a job. Two such people are featured here…

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Can a retiree Retire?

As a solo-preneur for the past 13 years, and with a 10 year old daughter entering middle school this fall, I do not see myself retiring for another 15 years…easily. And, I am ok with that vision of continuing to build my media services business and my home based Legal Shield business. The risks and rewards that are inherent as a self employed person are at times both exciting and nerve wrecking.

What is becoming all too familiar, as I meet and talk with my fellow soon-to-be 60 years young friends, many of whom have or will be retiring soon, is that they are not prepared to have a lifestyle that will require them to live off of 40% less money than they are accustomed to…..nobody said retirement would be easy. Or cheap. When I speak with individuals, as well as small groups, I often suggest that they consider developing a home-based business to give them something to do as well as create some much-needed income. I found this article and wanted to share it with you all…


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